[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":32},["ShallowReactive",2],{"compatibility-en-capricorn-and-capricorn":3},{"slug":4,"signA":5,"signB":5,"title":6,"description":7,"heading":8,"intro":9,"sections":10,"friction":20,"faq":21,"layout":31},"capricorn-and-capricorn","Capricorn","What Capricorn and Capricorn cannot say","Both declare it by handling things, and neither can hear it declared that way. Two people saying something continuously that the other does not receive.","Affection delivered as work, and received as duty","Two Capricorn recognise each other by conduct rather than by conversation, and a conjunction gives them no distance to see the arrangement from. Bills are paid, promises are kept, and neither has to be persuaded that the difficult thing is done first.\n\nEach of them means all of that as affection. Neither of them reads it that way when it arrives, because on this side a handled obligation is simply what a competent adult produces. So both are declaring something at all times, in the only language either of them has, to a person who receives it as ordinary maintenance and answers in exactly the same words.",[11,14,17],{"heading":12,"body":13},"A partnership that holds","This pair survives what ends other relationships: illness, money trouble, a family crisis running for years. Neither leaves, neither complains at length, and both keep doing what has to be done.\n\nThat is the real strength here, and it is worth saying plainly because it is unfashionable. Endurance is not a consolation prize.",{"heading":15,"body":16},"The undelivered message","The gap shows up in small evidence. One of them takes a day off work to sit in a hospital corridor; the other says thank you and means it, and files it as something that had to be arranged.\n\nNeither is cold. Both are simply fluent in a language that does not survive translation into itself: when everybody is speaking it, nobody hears it as a statement.\n\nWhat this pair goes short of is not care, which is abundant, but any sense of having been chosen rather than covered.",{"heading":18,"body":19},"The sentence nobody says","Saying it plainly feels to both like asking for reassurance, and asking for reassurance is the one manoeuvre this sign will not make.\n\nSo it goes unsaid for decades between two people who would each answer immediately if it were ever put to them, and who are both waiting to be asked something they have decided it would be undignified to ask.","Both signs are cardinal, so both take charge, and this pair can run a long, cold disagreement about whose plan the household is following. Neither raises the volume; both simply continue with their own version, and the parallel arrangements accumulate.\n\nUnderneath it is the same untranslated message. Each has said it a hundred times in the only language available and heard it back as ordinary competence, so both are short of something neither can name without sounding as though they are asking to be thanked. Nothing evaporates here either: whatever was never received stays exactly where it was put until somebody deliberately raises it, and neither will.",[22,25,28],{"q":23,"a":24},"Do two Capricorn make a good couple?","Watch what happens when one of them cannot carry their share for a while — a bad year at work, a parent who needs looking after. The other absorbs the load without comment, which is exactly right and is also the first time the pair has had to run on one person's conduct, so the one being carried has no way to answer in the only currency the household accepts. Most pairs come through it without a word being withdrawn, and the arrangement holds until the load can be shared again; the words for what happened get found later, if they are found at all.",{"q":26,"a":27},"Are two Capricorn too serious together?","From outside, more than they are; from inside, more than is good for them. The humour is dry and it is real. Spontaneity is the thin resource, since both regard an unplanned day as one that got away rather than one that was enjoyed.",{"q":29,"a":30},"Why does this pairing feel unappreciated?","Because both express care by handling things, and to the other one a handled thing looks like competence rather than devotion. The message is sent constantly and received as ordinary maintenance, which leaves two well-loved people each feeling faintly taken for granted.","c",1789041548618]